培养你的耐心

:5条小建议培养你的耐心ChewYourFoodSlowlyPeople who consume food more slowlyand ignore those Im hungry urges一eatlessoverallthanthosewhodevourtheirmeals.Researchhasfoundthat impatient people are more likely to be overweight, possibly because of their inabilitytodelaygratificationatthedinnertable.Thispracticecanhelpyouinother areasoflifeaswell:Byeatingslowly,youcantrainyourselftobelessimpulsiveand morepatientingeneral.细嚼慢咽那些细嚼慢咽且不理会我饿了欲望的人总体上比那些狼吞虎咽的人吃得少。研究发现不 耐烦的人更容易超重，可能是因为他们在餐桌上无法延长满足。这一练习也可以在生活的其 它领域帮到你：通过慢慢吃，大体上你可以训练自己少些冲动多些耐心。ExperienceDifferentCulturesWhenyoutraveltheworld,youfindoutthatmanyculturesarentaspunctualand perfectionistic as ours, and encountering those perspectives can mellow you. To workonyourpatienceclosertohome,tryvisitinganareapopulatedbypeopleof adifferentculture(suchasacitysChinatown)ortakepartinafestivalheldbyan immigrantcommunity.体验不同文化当你周游世界时，你会发现很多文化不像我们的文化那样守时和完美主义，遭遇这些观念可 以使你成熟。要在离家更近的地方磨练你的耐心，就去尝试探访居住着不同文化人群的地区（如一个城市中的唐人街）或参加移民社区举办的节日。LaughatYourselfImanewspapercolumnistandmyhusbandisapolitician,sobothofusmustbewilling to converse with strangers when were eating out or shopping for groceries.Intheraremomentswhenpeopleareobnoxious(likethetimeawoman toldmethatIneededtogetBotox),Icangetimpatient.Butinsteadofbeingrude totheperson,Iformulateajoke,usuallyatmyownexpense.自嘲我是一名报纸的专栏作家，我的丈夫是一名政治家，所以当我们外出吃饭或买杂货时，我们 俩必须愿意与陌生人交谈。在人们令人讨厌的那样为数不多的时候(就像有次一个女人告诉 我需要去打肉毒杆菌)，我可以不耐烦。但是除了粗鲁对人，我会编一个笑话，通常是自嘲。FindaDistractionBeingoutontheroadforweeksonendcancertainlytestyourpatience.MywifeandI wedriveasateam havetodealwithotherdriversandtheannoyancesof trafficjams,anditsnaturaltobeanxiousinthesemoments.Weovercomethat feelingbygivingeachothersomethingelsetothinkabout.Forexample,mywife tellsjokesandcatchesmeuponthelate stFacebookpostsfromfriends.OrIlltalk tomydogs(theyalsotravelwithus).Thosequickmomentsofdistractionrecharge me,andIcanagainfocusontheroadwithoutbeingirritated.找到分心之处 在路上连续几周最终一定可以测试你的耐心。我和妻子我们作为一个团队来开车，不 得不与应对其他司机和恼人的交通堵塞，这种时候很自然会焦躁。我们通过让彼此思考其它 一些东西来摆脱这种感觉。例如我的妻子会讲笑话，在脸谱网上朋友最新的帖子上了解我的 近况。或者我会和我的狗说话（他们也和我们一起旅行）。那些分心的短暂时刻让我得到休整， 我可以不发火地再次集中到路上。StopImaginingtheldealloftengrowimpatientwhenIwanttobeincontrolofasituation.Toavoidgetting antsywhenlamwritingan dcantfindspecificwordsformythoughts,Itryto practiceself- compassion.ItellmyselfthatImnotgoingtoquitevenifIbecome frustrated.Illsayoutloud,Yourenotperfect,butthatsOK.Writingcanbe amessyprocess,anditsnotideal, butyoucanhandleit.Talkingtoyourselfmay feelawkwardandgoofy,butitquellsthatfeelingofimpatience.停止往好处想当我想控制局面时我经常失去耐心。为了避免写作时文思短路的坐立不安，我尝试去实践自 我同情。我告诉自己即使受挫我也不会放弃。我会大声说，你不是完美的，但没关系。写 作可以是一个混乱的过程，它不是理想的，但你可以应对它。与你自己交谈可能会感到尴 尬和愚蠢，但它能减轻不耐烦的感觉。