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Stop Spoiling Your ChildrenStop Spoiling Your ChildrenReadingSkillsTestYourselfTextBN H C EIntroductionIntroduction随随 笔笔 阅读实践阅读实践自测自测课文课文BackN H C EUnderstandingFigurativeLanguageTomakelanguageclearer,moreinteresting,andmorestriking,allofususeexpressionswhicharenotliterallytrue.Wemakecomparisonsinspeakingandwriting.Figurativelanguagelanguagethatisusednotinitsliteralmeaning,butinawaythatmakesdescriptionmoreinterestingorimpressivepaintsapictureforthereader.IntroductionIntroduction自测自测课文课文BackN H C EFigurativelanguagecanbeconfusingifitisunderstoodliterally.Theabilitytorecognizeandinterpretorexplainfigurativelanguagemayhelpusfullyunderstandawriterspoint.LookatthefollowingexamplestakenfromPassageA:UnderstandingFigurativeLanguage随随 笔笔 阅读实践阅读实践IntroductionIntroduction自测自测课文课文BackN H C E1.Forwhat,Isometimeswonder;sothatshecanstruggletobreathethroughmostofherlifefeelinghalfherstrength,andthendieofself-poisoning,ashergrandfatherdid?(Para.7)Example 1随随 笔笔 阅读实践阅读实践IntroductionIntroduction自测自测课文课文BackN H C E Example 22.Smokingisaformofself-batteringthatalsobattersthosewhomustsitby,occasionallyjokeorcomplain,andhelplesslywatch.(Para.8)随随 笔笔 阅读实践阅读实践IntroductionIntroduction自测自测课文课文BackN H C E ExplanationInbothexamples,smokingiscomparedtoaformofself-poisoningandself-destroying,thusmakingtheevileffectsofsmokingcigarettesmorealarming.随随 笔笔 阅读实践阅读实践IntroductionIntroduction自测自测课文课文BackN H C ETherearedifferentwaysofusingfigurativelanguage.Listedherearejustafewofthem:a)Similes(明喻明喻),figurativeexpressionswhichdirectlycompareonethingtoanotherbyusingasorlike.UnderstandingFigurativeLanguage随随 笔笔 阅读实践阅读实践IntroductionIntroduction自测自测课文课文BackN H C Eb)Metaphors(暗喻暗喻),figurativeexpressionsinwhichcomparisonsareonlyimplied,withoutusingas,likeandthelike.c)Personification(拟人拟人),figurativeexpressionswhichcomparenon-humanthingstohumans.UnderstandingFigurativeLanguage随随 笔笔 阅读实践阅读实践PracticePractice阅读技巧阅读技巧N H C E自测自测课文课文BackDirections:Each of the following sentences from Passage B contains one or more figurative expressions(the underlined parts).Explain in your own words what each expression means.随随 笔笔 PracticePracticeN H C E自测自测课文课文Back1.Parents.mayattempttocompensatebyshoweringthemwithmaterialpossessions.(Para.4)givingthemahugenumberofmaterialpossessions Explanation阅读技巧阅读技巧随随 笔笔 PracticePracticeN H C E自测自测课文课文Back2.Suchparentsfluctuatebetweensayingnoandgivinginbutneitherresponseseemssatisfactorytothem.(Para.6)changecontinuallyandfrequently Explanation阅读技巧阅读技巧随随 笔笔 PracticePracticeN H C E自测自测课文课文Back3.Iftheyrefusearequest,theyimmediatelyfeelawaveofregretforhavingbeensostrictorungenerous.(Para.6)asudden,uncontrollablefeelingofregret Explanation阅读技巧阅读技巧随随 笔笔 PracticePracticeN H C E自测自测课文课文Back4.Thiskindofvariabilitynotonlyloosenstheparentsabilitytosetlimits,italsosourstheparent-childrelationshiptosomedegree,robbingparentsandtheirchildrenofsomeofthehappinessandmutualrespectthatispresentinhealthyfamilies.(Para.6)阅读技巧阅读技巧随随 笔笔 PracticePracticeN H C E自测自测课文课文Backchangecontinuallyandfrequentlymakes(theparent-childrelationship)gowrong;taking(someofthehappinessandmutualrespect)awayfrom(parentsandtheirchildren)Explanation阅读技巧阅读技巧随随 笔笔 PracticePracticeN H C E自测自测课文课文Back5.Onceyouturnoveranewleaf,youcantexpecttochangecompletelyrightaway.(Para.11)startanewcourseofimprovedbehavior Explanation阅读技巧阅读技巧随随 笔笔 N H C ENewWordsNewWords1QuestionsPreviewingQuestionsPreviewing2 2PassageReadingPassageReading3ChoiceMakingChoiceMaking4TextBTextB自测自测技巧技巧N H C E生词学习生词学习QuestionsPreviewingDirections:Foryoutobebetterconditionedforreadingasfastas100wordsperminute,asrequiredinthenewtypeofexamination“FastReading”,TextBcanservetobeyourfast-readingmaterial.But,forthispurpose,thebestcourseofactionistoknowwhattoscanforinyourskimming.Thus,thetrickistokeepinyourmindthekeywordsofeachquestionbeforeyoustartoff.Thatiswherethe“QuestionPreviewing”comesin.自测自测技巧技巧Back随随 笔笔 阅读理解阅读理解课文阅读课文阅读N H C EQuestionsPreviewing自测自测技巧技巧BackQ.1.Travelingalotforvariousspeakingappointments,thewriter_.Q.2.WhichofthefollowingstatementsisNOTtrueaccordingtoParagraph2?_.Q:3.Someparentswhoworkfull-timegivetheirchildrentoomuch_.Q:4.Allthefollowingcanbethereasonsforsomeparentsgivingtheirchildrentoomuchexceptthat_生词学习生词学习随随 笔笔 阅读理解阅读理解课文阅读课文阅读N H C EQuestionsPreviewing自测自测技巧技巧BackQ.5.Theword“variability”inParagraph6refersto_.Q:6.“Whenchildrenaregiventoomuch,itunderminestheirrespectfortheirparents.”(Para.7)Here“undermine”canbebestexplainedas_.Q:7.Wheneveryrequestedobjectisgivenondemand,childrenwithmanytoys_.Q:8.Onceyourchildrenlearnthatnaggingandarguingnolongerwork,theywill_.生词学习生词学习随随 笔笔 阅读理解阅读理解课文阅读课文阅读问题预览问题预览N H C E自测自测技巧技巧BackStopSpoilingYourChildrenPara.1Whiletravelingforvariousspeakingappointments,Ifrequentlystayovernightinthehomeofafamilyandamassignedtooneofthechildrensbedrooms.Init,Ioftenfindsomanytoysthattheresalmostnoroomevenformysmalllavatoryortoiletkit.AndtheclosetisusuallysotightlypackedwithclothesthatIcanbarelysqueezeinmyjacket.ChineseQuestion 1生词学习生词学习随随 笔笔 阅读理解阅读理解N H C E自测自测技巧技巧BackPara.2Imnotcomplaining,onlymakingapoint.IthinkthetendencytogivechildrentoomanytoysandclothesisquitecommoninAmericanfamilies.Ithinkinfartoomanyfamiliesnotonlydochildrencometotaketheirparentsgenerosityforgranted,butalsotheeffectsofthiscanactuallybesomewhatharmfultochildren.ChineseQuestion 2问题预览问题预览生词学习生词学习随随 笔笔 阅读理解阅读理解N H C E自测自测技巧技巧BackPara.3Whydoparentsgivetheirchildrentoomuch,orgivethemthingstheycantafford?Ibelievethereareseveralreasons.Chinese问题预览问题预览生词学习生词学习随随 笔笔 阅读理解阅读理解N H C E自测自测技巧技巧BackPara.4Onefairlycommonreasonisthatparentsspoiltheirchildrenoutofasenseofguilt.Parentswhobothholddownfull-timejobsmayfeelguiltyabouttheamountoftimetheyspendawayfromtheirchildrenand,asaccommodationforbeingawaysomuch,mayattempttocompensatebyshoweringthemwithmaterialpossessions.ChineseQuestion 3Question 4问题预览问题预览生词学习生词学习随随 笔笔 阅读理解阅读理解N H C E自测自测技巧技巧BackPara.5Otherparentsprovidetoomuchbecausetheywanttheirchildrentohaveeverythingtheyhadwhilegrowingup,alongwiththosethingstheypinedforbutdidntget.Stillothersareafraidtosaynototheirchildrensendlessrequestsfortoysforfearthattheirchildrenwillinfertheyareunlovedorwillbemadefunofiftheydontobtainthesametoysastheirfriendshave.ChineseQuestion 4问题预览问题预览生词学习生词学习随随 笔笔 阅读理解阅读理解N H C E自测自测技巧技巧BackPara.6aSpoilingachildalsohappenswhenparentsareunabletostanduptotheirchildrensunreasonabledemands.Suchparentsfluctuatebetweensayingnoandgivinginbutneitherresponseseemssatisfactorytothem.Iftheyrefusearequest,theyimmediatelyfeelawaveofregretforhavingbeensostrictorungenerous.ChineseQuestion 5问题预览问题预览生词学习生词学习随随 笔笔 阅读理解阅读理解N H C E自测自测技巧技巧BackPara.6bIftheygivein,theyfeelregretandresentmentoverhavingbeentooeasy.Thiskindofvariabilitynotonlyloosenstheparentsabilitytosetlimits,italsosourstheparent-childrelationshiptosomedegree,robbingparentsandtheirchildrenofsomeofthehappinessandmutualrespectthatispresentinhealthyfamilies.ChineseQuestion 5问题预览问题预览生词学习生词学习随随 笔笔 阅读理解阅读理解N H C E自测自测技巧技巧BackPara.7aButspoilingchildrenwithmaterialthingsdoeslittletoreduceparentalguilt(sinceparentsneverfeeltheyvegivenenough),nordoesitmakechildrenfeelmoreloved(forwhatchildrenreallydesireisparentstimeandattention).Instead,theeffectsofprovidingtoomuchcanbeharmful.Childrenmay,tosomedegree,becomegreedy,selfish,ungratefulandinsensitivetotheneedsandfeelingsofothers,beginningwiththeirparents.Chinese问题预览问题预览生词学习生词学习随随 笔笔 阅读理解阅读理解N H C E自测自测技巧技巧BackPara.7bWhenchildrenaregiventoomuch,itunderminestheirrespectfortheirparents.Infact,thechildrenbegintosensethataparentsunlimitedgenerosityisnotright.Thecontradictionasaresultmaybethatthesechildren,conversely,willpushfurther,unconsciouslyhopingthat,iftheypushtoohard,theywillforcetheirparentsintosettinglimitations.ChineseQuestion 6问题预览问题预览生词学习生词学习随随 笔笔 阅读理解阅读理解N H C E自测自测技巧技巧BackPara.8Also,spoiledchildrenarenotaschallengedtobemorecreativeintheirplayaschildrenwithfewertoys.Theyhavefeweropportunitiestolearnthevalueofmoney,andhavelessexperienceinlearningtodealwithdelayinsatisfaction,wheneveryrequestedobjectisgivenondemand.ChineseQuestion 7问题预览问题预览生词学习生词学习随随 笔笔 阅读理解阅读理解N H C E自测自测技巧技巧BackPara.9Therealpurposeofthisdiscussionisnottotellparentshowmuchorhowlittletogivetotheirchildren.Rather,myintentionistohelpthoseparentswhohavealreadysensedthattheymightbespoilingtheirchildrenbutdontknowhowtostop.Chinese问题预览问题预览生词学习生词学习随随 笔笔 阅读理解阅读理解N H C E自测自测技巧技巧BackPara.10Sometimesyoumayfeeluncertainaboutwhethertogiveintomanyofyourchildrensrequests.Thatdoesntmeanyoucantchange.First,youshouldtrytodeterminewhatmakesyousubmitorfeelguilty.Then,evenifyouhaventuncoveredthereason,youshouldbegintomakefirmdecisionsandpracticerespondingtoyourchildrensrequestsinaprompt,definitemanner.Chinese问题预览问题预览生词学习生词学习随随 笔笔 阅读理解阅读理解N H C E自测自测技巧技巧BackPara.11aOnceyouturnoveranewleaf,youcantexpecttochangecompletelyrightaway.Youareboundtofluctuateattimes.Thekeyistobesatisfiedwithgradualimprovement,expectingandacceptingtheoccasionalslipsthatcomewithanychange.Andevenafteryouarehandlingthesedecisionsinafirmerandmoreconfidentmanner,youcantexpectyourchildrentorespondimmediately.Chinese问题预览问题预览生词学习生词学习随随 笔笔 阅读理解阅读理解N H C E自测自测技巧技巧BackPara.11b Forawhiletheyllkeeponapplyingtheoldpressuresthatusedtoworksowell.Buttheylleventuallycometorespectyourdecisionsoncetheylearnthatnaggingandarguingnolongerwork.Intheend,bothyouandyourchildrenwillbehappierforit.ChineseQuestion 8问题预览问题预览生词学习生词学习随随 笔笔 阅读理解阅读理解课文阅读课文阅读自测自测技巧技巧BackChoiceMakingN H C E1.Travelingalotforvariousspeakingappointments,thewriter_.A.oftenhastostayinotherpeopleshomesB.isalwayscomplainingthatthereisnospaceforherclothesC.hastheopportunitytogivesomanytalksontheissueofspoiledchildrenD.oftencomplainsthatshehasnoplacetoputinherjacketRefertoPara.1问题预览问题预览生词学习生词学习随随 笔笔 自测自测技巧技巧BackChoiceMakingN H C E2.WhichofthefollowingstatementsisNOTtrueaccordingtoParagraph2?A.ItsquitecommoninAmericanfamiliesthatparentstendtobuytheirchildrentoomanythings.B.InmanyAmericanfamilieschildrencometotaketheirparentsgenerosityforgranted.C.Givingchildrentoomanytoysandclotheswillnotbeharmfultothem.D.Oftenparentsbuytheirchildrentoomanyclothesaswellastoomanytoys.RefertoPara.2课文阅读课文阅读问题预览问题预览生词学习生词学习随随 笔笔 自测自测技巧技巧BackChoiceMakingN H C E3.Someparentswhoworkfull-timegivetheirchildrentoomuch_.A.tospoiltheirchildrenB.toshowthattheyarerichenoughtobuythingsfortheirchildrenC.tohelptheirchildrenkilltimewhentheyareawayfromhomeD.tomakeupforthetimetheyspendawayfromtheirchildrenRefertoPara.4课文阅读课文阅读问题预览问题预览生词学习生词学习随随 笔笔 自测自测技巧技巧BackChoiceMakingN H C E4.Allthefollowingcanbethereasonsforsomeparentsgivingtheirchildrentoomuchexceptthat_.A.someparentswanttheirchildrentohaveboththingstheyoncehadandthingstheydidntgetB.someparentsdonotwanttheirchildrentoformtheopinionthattheyarenotlovedC.someparentsfeelthattheyarenotabletostaywiththeirchildrenasoftenastheyshouldD.someparentswanttheirchildrentomakefunoftheirfriendswhodonotgetthesametoystheyhaveRefertoPara.4,5课文阅读课文阅读问题预览问题预览生词学习生词学习随随 笔笔 自测自测技巧技巧BackChoiceMakingN H C E5.Theword“variability”inParagraph6refersto_.A.parentsattitudethatchangesfromrefusingarequesttogivinginB.parentsfeelingregretandresentmentC.changesintheparent-childrelationshipD.changesintheenvironmentinthehomeRefertoPara.6课文阅读课文阅读问题预览问题预览生词学习生词学习随随 笔笔 自测自测技巧技巧BackChoiceMakingN H C E6.“Whenchildrenaregiventoomuch,itunderminestheirrespectfortheirparents.”(Para.7)Here“undermine”canbebestexplainedas_.A.formthebasisofB.graduallyweakenC.strengthenD.changeforthebetterRefertoPara.7课文阅读课文阅读问题预览问题预览生词学习生词学习随随 笔笔 自测自测技巧技巧BackChoiceMakingN H C E7.Wheneveryrequestedobjectisgivenondemand,childrenwithmanytoys_.A.areaschallengedtobemorecreativeintheirplayaschildrenwithfewertoysB.havefeweropportunitiestolearnthevalueofmoneyC.areabletodealwithdelayinsatisfactionmoresuccessfullyD.knowthatgiftsdonotcomeeasilyRefertoPara.8课文阅读课文阅读问题预览问题预览生词学习生词学习随随 笔笔 自测自测技巧技巧BackChoiceMakingN H C E8.Onceyourchildrenlearnthatnaggingandarguingnolongerwork,theywill_.A.respondimmediatelyB.keeponapplyingtheoldpressuresthatusedtoworkC.cometorespectyourdecisionsD.losefaithinyouRefertoPara.11课文阅读课文阅读问题预览问题预览生词学习生词学习随随 笔笔 N H C E课文课文技巧技巧Inthissection,youwillhear3shortpassages.AttheInthissection,youwillhear3shortpassages.Attheendofeachpassage,youwillhearsomequestions.endofeachpassage,youwillhearsomequestions.BoththepassageandthequestionswillbespokenonlyBoththepassageandthequestionswillbespokenonlyonce.Afteryouhearaquestion,youmustchoosetheonce.Afteryouhearaquestion,youmustchoosethebestanswerfromthefourchoicesmarkedA),B),C)bestanswerfromthefourchoicesmarkedA),B),C)andD).andD).Test YourselfTest YourselfTest YourselfInthissection,thereisapassagewithtenblanks.YouInthissection,thereisapassagewithtenblanks.Youarerequiredtoselectonewordforeachblankfromaarerequiredtoselectonewordforeachblankfromalistofchoicesgiveninawordbankabovethepassage.listofchoicesgiveninawordbankabovethepassage.ReadthepassagethroughcarefullybeforemakingReadthepassagethroughcarefullybeforemakingyourchoices.yourchoices.ListeningComprehensionReadinginDepthQuestions1to4arebasedonthepassageyouaregoingtohear.课文课文技巧技巧BackN H C E阅读理解阅读理解1.A)Shesatbackandrelaxed.2.B)Shedecidedtoretire.C)Sheentereduniversity.3.D)SheworkedoutanewEnglishprogram.Q.WhatdidEthbelldowhenshewas68?Script随随 笔笔 课文课文技巧技巧BackN H C E2.A)8years.B)20years.C)16years.D)30years.Q.HowlongdidEthbellteachminoritystudents?Script阅读理解阅读理解随随 笔笔 课文课文技巧技巧BackN H C E3.A)Bringagreatdealofusefulexperienceto4.theuniversity.B)Improvehumanrelationshipsinthe5.university.C)Bringafearofagingamongyoung6.studentsonthecampus.D)Improvethereputationoftheuniversity.Q.Whatdoelderlypeopledototheuniversity?Script阅读理解阅读理解随随 笔笔 课文课文技巧技巧BackN H C E4.A)SheislearningEnglishandDrama.B)Sheislearninghowtomakesoundjudgments.C)Sheislearninghowtoteachminoritystudents.D)Sheisleaningtoperceive,nottojudge.Q.WhatsthemostimportantlessonEthbellislearning?Script阅读理解阅读理解随随 笔笔 课文课文技巧技巧BackN H C E5.A)Thedifferencebetweenclassicalmusic6.androckmusic.B)Whyclassicalmusicispopularwithmath7.students.C)Theeffectsofmusicontheresultsofmath8.tests.D)Howtoimproveyourreasoningability.Q.Whatisthispassagemainlyabout?ScriptQuestions5to7arebasedonthepassageyouaregoingtohear.阅读理解阅读理解随随 笔笔 课文课文技巧技巧BackN H C E6.A)Becauseitstimulatesyournerveactivity.B)Becauseitkeepsyoucalm.C)Becauseitstrengthensyourmemory.D)Becauseitimprovesyourproblem7.solvingstrategies.Q.Whycanclassicalmusicplayapositiveroleinproblemsolving?Script阅读理解阅读理解随随 笔笔 课文课文技巧技巧BackN H C E7.A)Pianomusiccouldinterferewithyour8.reasoningability.B)Theeffectsofmusicdonotlastlong.C)Themoreyoulistentomusic,thehigher9.yourtestscoreswillbe.D)Music,whetherclassicalorrock,helps10.improveyourmemory.Q.Whatisoneofthefindingsoftheresearch?Script阅读理解阅读理解随随 笔笔 课文课文技巧技巧BackN H C E8.A)Todrivethecarautomatically.B)Tomeasurethedriverspulse.C)Topreventcaraccidents.D)Tomonitorthedrivershealth.Q.Whyisacomputersysteminstalledinanexperimentalcar?ScriptQuestions8to10arebasedonthepassageyouaregoingtohear.阅读理解阅读理解随随 笔笔 课文课文技巧技巧BackN H C E9.A)Itsendsoutsignalsforhelp.10.B)Itsoundsanalarmtowarnthedriver.C)Ittakesoverthedrivingimmediately.11.D)Itstopsthecarautomatically.Q.Whatdidthecomputersystemdofirstwhenaproblemarises?Script阅读理解阅读理解随随 笔笔 课文课文技巧技巧BackN H C E10.A)Itmonitorsthesignalstransmittedfromthedriversbrain.B)Itcanmeasurethedriversalcohollevelintheblood.C)Itcanquickenthedriversresponsetoemergencies.D)Itbasesitsanalysisonthedriversheartbeat.Q.Whatisspecialaboutthenewcomputersystem?Script阅读理解阅读理解随随 笔笔 课文课文技巧技巧BackN H C ESupposewebuiltarobot(机器人机器人)toexploretheplanetMars.Weprovidetherobotwithseeingdetectorstokeepitawayfromdanger.Itispoweredentirelybythesun.Shouldweprogramtherobottobeequally1_atalltimes?No.active听力理解听力理解cease visionactivemerely prompt accountsdeeplysensitive survival inactivity effectively inefficient assignment restoration familiar 随随 笔笔 课文课文技巧技巧BackN H C ETherobotwouldbeusingupenergyatatimewhenitwasnotreceivingany.Sowewouldprobablyprogramitto2_itsactivityatnightandtowakeupatdawnthenextmorning.ceasecease visionactivemerely prompt accountsdeeplysensitive survival inactivity effectively inefficient assignment restoration familiar 听力理解听力理解随随 笔笔 课文课文技巧技巧BackN H C EAccordingtotheevolutionary(进化的进化的)theoryofsleep,evolutionequippeduswitharegularpatternofsleepingandwakingforthesamereason.Thetheorydoesnotdenythatsleepprovidessomeimportantrestorativefunctions.It3_saysthatevolutionhasprogrammedustoperformthosefunctionsatatimewhenactivitywouldbe4_andpossiblydangerous.merelyinefficientcease visionactivemerely prompt accountsdeeplysensitive survival inactivity effectively inefficient assignment restoration familiar 听力理解听力理解随随 笔笔 课文课文技巧技巧BackN H C EHowever,sleepprotectsusonlyfromthesortoftroublewemightwalkinto;itdoesnotprotectusfromtroublethatcomeslookingforus.Sowesleepwellwhenweareina5_,safeplace,butwesleeplightly,ifatall,whenwefearthatbearswillnoseintothetent.familiarcease visionactivemerely prompt accountsdeeplysensitive survival inactivity effectively inefficient assignment restoration familiar 听力理解听力理解随随 笔笔 课文课文技巧技巧BackN H C ETheevolutionarytheory6_wellfordifferencesinsleepamongcreatures.Whydocats,forinstance,sleepsomuch,whilehorsessleepsolittle?Surelycatsdonotneedfivetimesasmuchrepairand7_ashorsesdo.Butcatscanaffordtohavelongperiodsof8_becausetheyspendlittletimeeatingandareunlikelytobeattackedwhiletheysleep.accountscease visionactivemerely prompt accountsdeeplysensitive survival inactivity effectively inefficient assignment restoration familiar restorationinactivity听力理解听力理解随随 笔笔 课文课文技巧技巧BackN H C EHorsesmustspendalmostalltheirwakinghourseating,becausewhattheyeatisverylowinenergyvalue.Moreover,theycannotaffordtosleeptoolongortoo9_,becausetheir10_dependsontheirabilitytorunawayfromattackers.deeplysurvivalcease visionactivemerely prompt accountsdeeplysensitive survival inactivity effectively inefficient assignment restoration familiar 听力理解听力理解随随 笔笔 EndN H C E返回返回自测自测技巧技巧别再溺爱孩子别再溺爱孩子Para.1我四处奔波，应约作各种演讲，常在别我四处奔波，应约作各种演讲，常在别人家里过夜，也常被安排在孩子的卧室里。我人家里过夜，也常被安排在孩子的卧室里。我发现孩子房间里的玩具实在太多，甚至连我小发现孩子房间里的玩具实在太多，甚至连我小小的梳妆盒也无处可放。壁橱通常也是塞满了小的梳妆盒也无处可放。壁橱通常也是塞满了衣服，我几乎无法衣服，我几乎无法把夹克衫塞进去。把夹克衫塞进去。N H C E自测自测技巧技巧Para.2我不是在抱怨，只是在表明一种观点。我不是在抱怨，只是在表明一种观点。我发现父母给孩子们买的玩具和衣服越来越多，我发现父母给孩子们买的玩具和衣服越来越多，这种倾向在美国家庭已是司空见惯。我认为在这种倾向在美国家庭已是司空见惯。我认为在很多家庭中，孩子们都把家长的慷慨大方视作很多家庭中，孩子们都把家长的慷慨大方视作理所当然的事情，而且这种做法的后果实际上理所当然的事情，而且这种做法的后果实际上对孩子们来说也是有害的。对孩子们来说也是有害的。返回返回N H C E自测自测技巧技巧Para.3家长为什么要给孩子们那么多家长为什么要给孩子们那么多的东西，或者要给孩子们他们买不起的的东西，或者要给孩子们他们买不起的东西呢东西呢?我认为有几方面的原因。我认为有几方面的原因。返回返回N H C E自测自测技巧技巧Para.4 一个颇为常见的原因就是父母亲们出一个颇为常见的原因就是父母亲们出于内疚而溺爱孩子。两人都是全职工作者的父于内疚而溺爱孩子。两人都是全职工作者的父母也许会因为不能常常和孩子在一起而感到内母也许会因为不能常常和孩子在一起而感到内疚。他们可能想通过给孩子们大量物质的东西疚。他们可能想通过给孩子们大量物质的东西作为对他们的补偿。作为对他们的补偿。返回返回N H C E自测自测技巧技巧Para.5还有一些父母给孩子买这买那，是因为还有一些父母给孩子买这买那，是因为他们想让孩子拥有他们自己童年时所拥有的每他们想让孩子拥有他们自己童年时所拥有的每一样东西，以及那些他们过去想得到而未能得一样东西，以及那些他们过去想得到而未能得到的东西。还有一些家长不愿拒绝孩子们永无到的东西。还有一些家长不愿拒绝孩子们永无休止的买玩具的要求，是因为他们害怕孩子会休止的买玩具的要求，是因为他们害怕孩子会认为父母不爱他们，或者害怕如果他们得不到认为父母不爱他们，或者害怕如果他们得不到和小伙伴相同的玩具会被人取笑。和小伙伴相同的玩具会被人取笑。返回返回N H C E自测自测技巧技巧Para.6a当家长无法应付孩子的无理要求时，当家长无法应付孩子的无理要求时，也会发生溺爱孩子的现象。这样的父母会在拒也会发生溺爱孩子的现象。这样的父母会在拒绝和让步之间动摇不定绝和让步之间动摇不定但是好像哪种办法但是好像哪种办法都不能使他们满意。如果他们都不能使他们满意。如果他们拒绝孩子的请求，他们会因拒绝孩子的请求，他们会因为对孩子太严格或太不慷慨为对孩子太严格或太不慷慨而立即感到后悔。而立即感到后悔。返回返回N H C E自测自测技巧技巧Para.6b如果他们让步了，也会因为太容易让如果他们让步了，也会因为太容易让步而感到懊悔和自责。这样的摇摆不定不但削步而感到懊悔和自责。这样的摇摆不定不但削弱了父母管教孩子的能力，同时也在某种程度弱了父母管教孩子的能力，同时也在某种程度上使父母与子女之间的关系变味，从而使家长上使父母与子女之间的关系变味，从而使家长和子女间失去了存在于健康家庭中的某些幸福和子女间失去了存在于健康家庭中的某些幸福和相互尊重。和相互尊重。返回返回N H C E自测自测技巧技巧Para.7a但是，用物质的东西来溺爱孩子并不能但是，用物质的东西来溺爱孩子并不能减轻父母的内疚感（因为父母从不会感到他们已减轻父母的内疚感（因为父母从不会感到他们已经付出了足够多），也不会使孩子们觉得自己得经付出了足够多），也不会使孩子们觉得自己得到了更多的爱（因为孩子真正想要的是父母的时到了更多的爱（因为孩子真正想要的是父母的时间和对他们的注意）。相反，给孩子们太多的东间和对他们的注意）。相反，给孩子们太多的东西可能是有害的。在一定程度上，孩子们可能会西可能是有害的。在一定程度上，孩子们可能会变得贪婪、自私、忘恩负义，对他人的需要和感变得贪婪、自私、忘恩负义，对他人的需要和感觉变得麻木不仁，而且首先从对自己父母的态度觉变得麻木不仁，而且首先从对自己父母的态度开始。开始。返回返回N H C E自测自测技巧技巧Para.7b给孩子们的东西太多会逐渐削弱他们给孩子们的东西太多会逐渐削弱他们对父母的尊敬。事实上，孩子们已经开始感到对父母的尊敬。事实上，孩子们已经开始感到父母的无限制的慷慨大方是不对的。这种矛盾父母的无限制的慷慨大方是不对的。这种矛盾的结果可能是这些孩子会反过来提出更高的要的结果可能是这些孩子会反过来提出更高的要求，并下意识地希望，如求，并下意识地希望，如果他们逼得更紧一些，果他们逼得更紧一些，他们就能迫使父母他们就能迫使父母对自己设立些限制。对自己设立些限制。返回返回N H C E自测自测技巧技巧Para.8另外，被宠坏的孩子也并不比那些另外，被宠坏的孩子也并不比那些没什么玩具的孩子在做游戏时被激发出的没什么玩具的孩子在做游戏时被激发出的创造性更大。由于有求必应，他们了解金创造性更大。由于有求必应，他们了解金钱价值的机会就比别人少，而且当他们的钱价值的机会就比别人少，而且当他们的要求无法即刻得到满足时，他们也不知如要
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