管教子女基本法

1.孩子需要你的愛 你給了孩子甚麼：物質、時間、關懷？孩子如何看你的愛？你明白孩子真正需要嗎？真愛的要素：知、能、心2.溺愛糟質唔應該 是寵愛還是關愛？勿拿孩子出氣！你有打孩子習慣嗎？3.期望過高可成害 睇人哋幾叻，你學人啦(少年人眼中十大父母最HURT的說話)要孩子肩負父母未達心願！？！？了解孩子氣質，因才施教4.孩子有錯慢慢改 正確看待孩子的錯失毋須過份焦慮，應予耐心指導5.不要隨便罵蠢材孩子的自我價值受父母影響！孩子也有自尊心！既是蠢材那有上進心？6.一嚴一縱構成害 以寬得愛，愛之於一時，以嚴得畏，畏之於力所及。(蘇東坡)管教子女方法須堅持管教子女方法須堅持一致性1.夫妻的一致性：不宜一忠一奸夫妻的一致性：不宜一忠一奸2.內外的一玫性：不論在家或外出內外的一玫性：不論在家或外出3.時間的一致性：任何時間始終如一時間的一致性：任何時間始終如一7.有傾有講親情在 孩子有心事/遇到困擾會主動向你傾訴嗎？親子關係如變得疏離，誤解只會加深親子溝通大忌：長篇大論；陳辭說教忙著糾正；不懂稱讚舊事重提；重翻舊帳自以為是；大發雷霆不顧感受；侵犯人格8.關注孩子樂與哀 孩子情緒不安的表現身體身體肚痛肚痛遺尿遺尿難入睡難入睡發惡夢發惡夢頭痛頭痛冇胃口冇胃口呼吸困難呼吸困難情緒情緒冇笑容冇笑容易哭易哭發脾氣發脾氣恐懼恐懼憂心憂心嫉妒嫉妒仇恨仇恨行為行為咬手指咬手指不專注不專注不願上學不願上學成績倒退成績倒退摟抱摟抱行為倒退行為倒退9.約束孩子勿亂來 為孩子定界線訂定的規則，必須執行不宜容讓孩子的情緒去改變你的決定,否則會強化他用情緒去控制別人,發脾氣及鬧情緒的次數及程度會變本加厲。10.獎勵利誘要分開 利誘和賄賂，容易養成孩子討價還價的惡習。孩子是不會被讚壞的！(只要不是胡亂的讚)讚賞要領：1.要真誠2.應讚則讚3.稱讚努力過程努力過程勝於結果 11.細心說理育良才 了解事情不等於了解感受了解感受卻可以了解事情做一個有效的聆聽者：I am here I hear you I understand And I care12.子女意見不妨採 因應孩子的年齡，選擇一些事情，讓孩子參與和表達意見即使孩子意見屬次好選擇，如影響不大，便應採納。事後可透過一同討論，培養孩子自我檢討的能力。培養孩子為大家共同決定的事情負責。13.以身作則兒敬愛 其身正，不令而行，其身不正，須令不從。(論語)有其父必有其子 Like Father Like Son孩子需要你的愛溺愛糟質唔應該 期望過高可成害 孩子有錯慢慢改 不要隨便罵蠢材一嚴一縱構成害有傾有講親情在 關注孩子樂與哀 約束孩子勿亂來 獎勵利誘要分開 細心說理育良才 子女意見不妨採 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