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Friendship,Chineseexceptfriendshipstobemorelasting.,ForChineseatruefriendshipenduresthroughoutlifechanges.Chinesearefriendseveniftheyhaventspokenfor20years.Ifyousharedsomethingatonetime,thenallyourlifeyouarefriends.Thisisthebestofguanxi(关系),theWideWebthatconnectsChinesethroughtimeandspace.So,wecansayChineseinventedtheInternetlongbeforeBillGateswasborn.,InNorthAmerica,eventherelationshipinwhichpeoplefeelcloseandtelleachotherpersonalproblemsmaynotsurvivelifechangessuchasmovingtoanothercity,graduationfromauniversityormarriage.Ifthepeopledonotseeeachotherregularly,therelationshipislikelytodie.,Differentfoundationsforfriendships.,Chinesefriendsshare“thingsincommon”:atask,aclass,thehometown.Friendshipsareformedbypeoplewhoworkorgotoschooltogether.Youmayormaynotliketheperson,butifheorshecandosomethingforyoubecauseofhispositionorjob,youcanbefriends.ButinNorthAmerica,businessandfriendshiparekeptseparate.Thefriendshipsareusuallytiedtospecificactivities.Apersonmayhaveworkfriendsandleisure(休闲时)activityfriends.Alsofriendstendtohavesimilarfinancialcircumstances,becausefriendshipintheWestisbasedonequality.,Westernsexpectfriendstobeindependent.,Why?Itsbecausetheirfriendshipismostlyamatterofprovidingemotionalsupportandspendingtimetogether,sotheydonotfeelcomfortableinarelationshipinwhichonepersonisgivingmoreandtheotherisdependentonwhatisgiving.Awesternerwillrespondtoafriendstroublebyasking“Whatdoyouwanttodo?”Theideaistohelpthefriendtothinkouttheproblemanddiscoverthesolutionheorshereallywantsandthentosupportthesolution.Chinesefriendsgiveeachothermoreconcretehelp.AChinesewillusepersonalconnectionstohelpafriendgetsomethinghardtoobtain.Theygiveeachothermoneyandmighthelpeachotheroutfinanciallyoveralongtime.,Chineseusuallyexpectmorefromtheirfriends.,IntheWest,youcancertainlyaskafriendtodosomethingwithyou,butyourecognizethatyourfriendmaysayno,ifheorshegivesyouasreason.Youwouldnotexpectafriendtodropeverythingtorespondtoanon-urgentneedsuchasshopping.Norwouldyouexpectafriendtorecognizeandrespondtoyourwisheswithoutstatingthem.AfriendinChinaissomeonewhooffershelpwithoutwaitingtobeasked.Therearefewlimitstowhatyoucanexpectfromafriend.Youcanfeelfreetotellyourfriendwhatheorshecanorshoulddoorhelporpleaseyou.,thatsallthankyou,
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