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SimplifyYourLifeWhatarethekeysthatunlockthesimplificationoflife!1Simplify Your LifeA Presentation by:James,KarenKrain,MollyMurray,JoanWright,KarenWilliams,DalilaSFSU/HolisticHealth382-03/Spring20042WebstersDefinition:Life-Thesequenceofphysicalandmentalexperiencesthatmakeuptheexistenceofanindividual.3GroupsDefinitionofLifeLifeiscomplexLifeinvolvesmanydifferentaspectsLifeisdifferentfrompersontopersonOneslifeiscontrolledbythatperson4Thus,simplifyingoneslifecanbeacomplexprocessinvolvingmanydifferentaspectsandisalsocontrolledbythatindividual.Mostimportantly,everyonesperspectiveofwhatitmeanstosimplifyyourlifeisdifferent.5GroupsperspectiveReleasingphysicalmaterialsReleasingnegativeemotionsandrelationships.Managementofexternalenvironmentanditsstressors.Aspectsofsimplifyinginnerlife67DealingwithPhysicalClutterStatementofProblem:Theaccumulationofgoodsisaprominentbehaviorinourculture.“That which you cannot give away,you do not possess.It possesses you.”I.Ball8WhatisClutterAnyway?“Acrowdedorconfusedmassorcollection.”perdictionary.Whateveriscreatinginterference,stress,anddistractionfromyourgoals.Whateveryouwanttorelease,butareunabletodosoYet!9Whydoweclutter?Accumulatingcomeseasy.Wehaveanaturalurgetoacquireasasurvivalstrategy.Fearoflossandfeelingsofregretcanblocktheletting-goprocess.10StepstoDe-clutter.Gatherandgroupsimilaritems.Makechoices:tokeeportoletgo.Lettinggocanmeantodiscard,donate,orrecycle.Askhelpofatrustedfriend.Arrange“tokeep”itemsintoaconsistent,pleasing,andeasytomanageorder.11Simplify in Every WayEliminatetheunimportant,whetherthatisRelationshipsTasksResponsibilitiesPossessionsBeliefsOrganizetheremainder.12Discover effective sources of motivation.Giveyourselfcreditevenaftersmallefforts.Breakaprojectintosmallsections,andvisualizepositiveresults.Makeaplanforprogressiveworksessions.Reward,reward,rewardyourself.Involveothers.13Thegoodthingaboutclutteristhatitwaitsforyou.Thebadthingaboutclutteristhatitwaitsforyou.Itwillwaitandwait,untilyouareinenough pain,Todealwithit.14“Hewhoknowsthatenoughisenoughwillalwayshaveenough.”Lao Tzu.15SimplicityOverMaterialism“Ifwelimitthenumberofmaterialbelongings,theycanstillbebeautifulandinspireoursouls.”LindaBreenPierce16ReleasingMaterialPossessions17WhatisMaterialism?Thebeliefthatmoney,possessions,andcomfortarethemostimportantthingstoobtaininlife.CambridgeDictionary18HowtoReleaseMaterialPossession?Identifywhatmaterialitemsorcircumstancessupportorconstrictyourlife.Whatsreallyimportant!Makealistoftheitems/circumstancesandpossessionsthatconstrictyourlife.Makealistofitemsthatyounolongeruseorhaventwornwithinayear.Take1530minutesadaytocleanoutadraw,closet,orroomwheretheseitemsarelocated.Setagoalofcompletingyourentirehomeoveratwotothreemonthperiod.Establishatreasurechestforthingsthatarehardtoletgoofandattheendofthethreemonthperiod,tryagain.Donate,give-awayorselltheitems.Sscheduleapick-upwithSalvationArmy,St.Pauls,UhuruHouse,etc,fordonateditems-furnitureorlargeitems.BUYLESSSTUFF!19BenefitsofReleasingMaterialPossessionFreedomandselfdiscoveryPleasureingivingtosomeoneinneedSpace,spaceandmorespace.Economicalgain,maybe.Clarityandcomfort.20WhySimplify?“Asimplelifeisprobablybestdefinedasajourney.Itisanawakeningtoasenseofself.Itisasearchfor-andadiscoveryof-thosepeople,activities,possessionsthatslowlybringanawarenessoftheuniquenessofonesselfandthepleasures,lastingsatisfactionanddeepcontentmentthatcomefromthisknowledge.”“Itisaremovalofthethingsthatdistractusfromfindingourownuniquecenter:Possessionsthatarenolongermeaningfuland/orhavelostmeaningorpurposeinourlives.”PattiTokarTo create a balanced life!21Releasingnegativeemotionsandrelationships.22Wheredoesnegativitycomefrom?Somepeopleseemtobebornwithanegativepredispositionfornegativity,whileothersappeartobecomenegativebecauseoftheirenvironment.Psychologistshavelongarguedaboutthebasisofeachindividualspersonality.Thisdebatehasbeenresolvedbythosewhoagreethatpersonalityisacombinationofourgeneticmake-upandlifeexperiences.23DefinitionofaNegativePersonality:peoplewhochronicallyexpressnegativethoughts,feelings,andbehaviorsthatincreasethelikelihoodofengagingindestructiveactions.Negativitycanbeimposedintwoways:imposedbyothers,andcausedbyourownthoughtsandfeelings24HowwillIknowifIencounteranegativeperson?Tofigureoutifsomeonehasanegativepersonalityyoucanaskquestionsfromfourcategories:physical,behavioral,emotional,andcommunicative.Theanswerswillrevealifholisticallythispersonalisnegativelyeffectingyou.25SomeExamples:Emotionalexample:Areyouinabadmoodaftertalkingtothisperson?Physicalexample:DoesthispersongiveyoutensioninyourneckandbackBehavioralexample:Doyoutreatyourbodyworsephysicallywhenyouarearoundorafteryouhavebeenaroundthisperson:(i.e.drinking,drugs,over-eating,feelingsofstress)Communicativeexample:Isthepersoncondescendingtowardsyou?26ThreeStrategiesforDealingwithNegativePersonalities:1.Understandthem.2.Ignorethem.3.Convertthem.27UnderstandThem:Why?Theyhavereasonsforbehavingthisway.Sincebeingunpleasantissopersonallyunsuccessful,itmustbeareactiontosomethinglarger.Thisrealizationwillhelpyoufromtakingtheirbehaviorpersonally.How?Monitoryourownemotionalarousaltowardstheirnegativity.Watchforwhattriggerstheirattacksonothers.Observehowothersrespondtotheiroutbursts.28IgnoreThem:Why?Thislimitstheirpowertocausedisruption.Itremovestheairthatfeedstheirfire.Itsendsanimportantandpowerfulmessagestoothers.Itdiscouragesothersfromadoptinganegativeposturebecauseofitsperceivedeffectiveness.How?RemaincivilRemainemotionallydetached.Focusonthepointmadeinsteadofthewayitwasmade.Reinforceappropriatedissentbypointingoutitsgreatereffectiveness29ConvertThem:Why?Negative peopleoftencaredeeply,butaresimplyimpairedinexpressingthemselves.Everyonehasthedesiretohaveenjoyablelives.Negativepeoplemaynotknowhowtoachievethis.How?Listen.Accepttheirfeelings.Legitimizetheirperceptions.Influencethemwithyourpositivepersonality.Expresshowtheirnegativitymakesyoufeel.Offerhelp.30OneLastNote:“Negativepeoplearestresscarriersbuttheonlywaytheycanpassontheirstressisifyourentthemspaceinyourhead.”Ultimately,each and every one of us has the power to decide who we shall invite into our lives.31Managementofexternalenvironmentanditsstressors32ExternalEnvironmentSchool-beingtoschoolontime,homework,tests,papersWork-beingtoworkontime,someofthepeopleIhavetointeractwithwhileatworkPersonal-takingcareofmyself,myson,andfamily/friendrelationships33=34BadTechniquesEliminating-Involvestheeliminationorreductionofactivitieswithinyourexternalenvironment.Multitasking-Involvesdoingtwoormoretaskatonce.Ex:Cookingwhilewritingapaper.35GoodTechniquesTimeManagingMindfulnessCommitment36TimeManagingOrganizetheDayDelegateamountoftimetoactivitiesMakeadailylistSetoridentifyprioritiesKnowyourpeaktimeRememberthereis24hoursinadayCreateatimeandplaceforprivatetime37Mindfulness-usefulconceptsTwenty-fourbrandnewhoursOurlifeisaworkofartWhatsnotwrong38CommitmentUntiloneiscommitted,thereishesitancy,thechancetodrawback,alwaysineffectiveness.Concerningallactsofinitiativeandcreation,thereisoneelementarytruththeignoranceofwhichkillscountlessideasandsplendidplans:thatthemomentonedefinitelycommitsoneself,thenprovidencemovestoo.”TheabovequoteisaquotefromJohannVonGoethe39Aspectsofsimplifyinginnerlife40ThingsyoullwanttodoSpendtimeeachdayinnatureCreatebeautyinyourlifeCreatesimplicity,notausterityLearntoenjoythesilenceGetintouchwithyourcreativityLatchontosynchronicityLearntoreceiveFigureoutwhatyoudontwantinyoulifeEnjoyeachmoment41EasythingstothinkaboutdoingHaveweekendretreatsathomeCreateyourownsanctuaryUsevisualizationsAskforhelpfromtheuniverseFigureoutwhatothershavetoteachyou42MoredifficultthingstothinkaboutdoingPracticedetachingDothingsyoufearBehonestwithpeopleBepatientLaughalot43ThehardstuffHarbornothoughtthatwillburnGetridofyourangerTakeresponsibilityforyourlifeAcceptthethingsyoucantchangeGetoutofrelationshipsthatdontsupportyouFigureoutyourbigissueLearntoseetheproblemsinyourlifeasgiftsTaketimetothink44SomefunstuffConsultapsychicCastaruneWritelikemad45Bibliography.Aslett,D.(1985).Clutters 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